Love: A Biochemical Wave; A Chemical Process

I reached in the office of my legal representative holding a personal necessary piece of work in the district courts. I saw Qazi Sahib was conducting a marriage ceremony (Nikah) there in the office of Advocate. A beautiful young girl and a boy were sitting with him for the above mentioned ceremony. They were going to start their married life through court marriage. For an instance I thought this couple would have made oaths to live and die together before attainment of this place. They would have met several time under the umbrella of love. They would have spent several days and night of unceasing heart-to-heart conversations of love. Boy would have tried to persuade her too. The boy would tried his love as of Ranjha, Ponu, Majno etc (famous characters of folk love fictions) and the same claim would be from the girl side….. I would have finally reached this stage. After thinking about this, my mind shifted to their current activities that they were passing through the process of court marriage.

Legal technical side by the lawyer after taking his demanded fee

All this work will be done quite well from legal technical side by the lawyer after taking his demanded fee and then this laughter and happiness will enter the house of their married life. The condition of the parents, their aspirations and their hopes have all been reduced to dust. Some parents squeeze death and those who survive would be like the dead. My mind immediately began to analyze their future activities of this love marriage. After a few days, they will realize that their decision was wrong because the fever of love may have subsided. The two may have proved to be contrary to each other's expectations surely. So the girl will either commit suicide or become a itinerant of wrong paths. It rarely happens that she goes back to her parents and they accept it too. Let's take a little scientific look at love. According to scientific knowledge, love is the result of an imbalance of hormones. When anyone look at a handsome non-masculine female, estrogen in a girl and androgen in a boy are activated. We consider this condition to be love, while it is a kind of "chemical process".  This is why the intensity of our love fluctuates because hormones fluctuate with the age, so every lover complains to his beloved that he no longer loves as much as before.

     When you feel that your lover is no longer the same, you should understand that his lover has become normal, that is, in a state of balance. Lovers who promise to break the moon and stars, roast and make imaginary deer, i. e suffer from "hormonal imbalance". They have turned around and are also turning around. Don't take their words seriously. There is good in that there are three levels of love and affection. Man loves his parents as well as his siblings and gives it to his children. This is pure love which is performed with holy relationships.

The second love is for a man for a woman and for a woman for a man, but it is also a natural mindset that the scope of love for sacred relationships is different. There is love in the heart, but that love takes the form of service. ۔ On the other hand, the love of a non-male woman goes to the natural mind setting sex. Because the name plate of sacred relationship with others is not affixed, sexual attraction is felt, the thought automatically rides on the horse of sexuality. As a Muslim, the position that our religion has taught us about holy relationships is based on shame and sanctity. It is pure, while the love of a non-male woman starts with the eyes and ends with the body. It becomes holy and pure when marriage takes place through proper channel. ۔ Love in the limits of love, it makes the heart to live together, to live, to talk, to spend time, to share affairs, to get married, love is considered complete…